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The basic idea is of a strong willed, mature man who is fair and Just, Righteous and Good in all things.

He is slow to anger, eager to help, courteous, polite, and respectful, and yet when the time comes powerful in his efforts to see good done and in helping people. He treats people how he wishes that they treat him. Even if people don’t treat him well he will treat them with respect and politeness, because his character is this and not theirs. He always hopes that they will one day see the value in being a good soul so that their world will be better for it.

The Gentleman earns respect not by what he does in the world or what he personally achieves, but by how he presents himself to others, helps people, and  how he affects the world. He does not want to be disrespectful and therefore presents himself to people with honour and respect for them.

It is said that Gentlemen “Character” came from France and was modelled off the life of Jesus.

Because he is open minded about people, life and what is known and not known he is willing to hear a new theory, to digest it and then he makes up how own mind about it even if everyone else disagrees. He knows that to be happy within himself he must believe what he thinks is right and refuses to be persuaded as the masses often are. He knows that he does not know it all, and he knows that he will never know it all, but he will do the best that he can be to hear each person out and learn as he listens, and he knows that without tunnel vision he will learn, progress, change and develop in a good way for the greater good of his own life and for all those that come to know him in his life journey.

For instance if he were a smoker he would not smoke in the home of non-smokers regardless of what they say, and in doing so he is showing them respect because he knows that they know that smoke will damage their lungs or give them cancer so he does not want to ‘put them out’.

The Gentleman is respectful to all women regardless of their status in society, but he is also weary of being taken advantage of by those who could be devious in all social classes's.

Being a Gentleman has nothing to do with your status in the world, your financial worth, title or what you own.
Its about being a strong worthy mature member of society who looks down on nobody, helps everybody, serves people if there is a need, and is there when he is needed.

A point to remember is that the Gentleman is strong, mature, stable as best as he can be, and he is also very sensitive, especially to other people’s suffering, pain and troubles, while also feeling very deeply with love and empathy for those he loves.

The Gentleman has great respect for his wife, and desires for her to be happy with him as her life partner.

The Gentleman is strong, but his strength would never be used to bully people who are less strong than he, such as women, the elderly or children.

The Gentleman is wise in his years and responsible. His wisdom comes from Life Experiences and from listening to others.
If he makes a mistake he owns up for it and does what he can to repair the damage done, he would expect this from his family and friends, and even if other people did not meet his standards he would still present himself as responsible as an example to children and those adults who are yet to learn the value of being responsible for their own doings and lives.

There is a modern day image of a Gentleman in a expensive suit (probably came from late 1800’s England), having a title, lots of money,l drives an expensive car etc, but that is the Materialistic version of the Gentleman character, a invention to make the younger generation desire to be wealthy, fake, plastic in mind, a conformer and materialistic. This form of a Gentleman is caustic and toxic because all in all his own interest is himself, business, making money and what he owns - in truth he is of little use to people and society.

The real Gentleman is a nice man, good to know, someone who you can rely on, trust, have faith in and know that when he shakes your hand and makes a promise he will do the best that he can to make that promise come true, he is as good as his word, and his handshake is as good as ay signed deal made in any lawyers office.

The Gentleman enjoys being helpful, useful, responsible, and even making personal sacrifices for other people gives him a good feeling knowing that in his small allotment of time on the planet he was able to make a positive difference to people who had no hope, no help from others, needed help, guidance, and advice, and he was there to do it.

The true Gentleman is the type that many come to his funeral because of how he affected their lives deeply, sincerely, completely and with empathy.

He lives not so much for himself, even though he does enjoy many things, he lives for others, and many times they never even have a clue that it was he that did them a good deed or favour. Life is not what he can get out of other people but what he can do for them, thats is what makes him happy and gives him joy, this is where his power and desires lay, in being someone who makes a difference for the better in other people’s lives, and it is not worthy of doing unless he gains nothing for his efforts.

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