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Know the difference between being pressured and doing what it is that you really want to do.

In this society where peer pressure is powerful and the norm, and people are many and insecure, people find themselves in uncomfortable situations doing things that an hour earlier they wouldn't have thought of doing.

For instance older people or more seductive people of your own age group are well versed in getting people to do things that they really don't want to do.

One way is to excite their emotions and letting their emotions drive them.
I remember Union meetings at a job where I worked and the delegates were doing a lousy job so they would put on a really emotional fired up speech and the workers would be cheering them and  I would be looking on amazed at the power off speech by a well trained orator to a gullible easily led audience.

There is the group of teenagers in a room and one lights up a joint (Marijuana) or gets out some white powder and you have never tried this and they all chant "Coward, chicken" etc and you feel so let out, insecure, wanting to please and be one of them you try the drugs, yet an hour earlier you were against drug abuse and so is your whole family, "Oh well, it can't help to try it once."
I read that will cocaine one sort or however you take it can make a person 100% addicted fro that first try.

Boundaries are helpful here because no matter where you are you just say no.

Some people get scared in certain situations and they fall into what is called "Survival Mode" and in that state they do what they are told no matter how gross, how much they dislike it or are against it, because they are desperate to get out of there.

Wisdom is not ever allowing yourself to be taken where this sort of thing can happen.

If you don't know your friends well, then don't go anywhere with them, and even with people you know trust your instincts and if in doubt say no and mean it.. It pays to always avoid people who you are unsure of.

When a man is trying to seduce a woman (Or a woman trying to seduce a male) the talk gets "sexually suggestive" and is filled with little tidbits that are to excite the sexual desires of the person who they are speaking to. To many this is a game, they seduce and move on.

Millions of people each year have sex with someone for the first time who they are not wanting to sleep with at first, but the playtime becomes exciting, delightful, sensual, a touch here a touch there, a laugh here and there, smiles, winks, delightful this and that, some foreplay and next thing you know you are having sex with someone who in 5 years time you will hate yourself for doing it.

Its about being "caught up in the moment" and not recognizing that you are being seduced, pressured, talked into something, and then just letting yourself give in because at that moment this seems to be the right things to do and it is harmful.

Millions of people will tell you that this is not so and that it is harmful, adjusts people's future paths (like drug addiction, wrong crowds, first time sex, etc), and dreams are broken and sadness and depression the results.

I have only given a few examples here but the idea is to stop what is going on if it feels uncomfortable and remove yourself from the situation fast before you can't control yourself and the wait a few days while thinking about the person or people involved and whether you were about to do something that you were calmly comfortable with doing or you were about to make a huge mistake in your life.

In romance the other person offers no pressure, no sexual suggestive talk, not trying to delight your sexual sensors, no attempts to touch you or fondly and get foreplay going.
Genuine loving relationships are natural and if sex were part of it them that would be natural although it is better to find someone who is like you, someone you can love, trust and have a nice respectful relationship with and then the sex will be meaningful, strong and loving.

But if the person really loves and respects you then he or she will wait until you are both married to each other.

This ensures that you will make sure that you are sleeping with the right person, someone who love,s respects and will go without for you until the right time, when married and you both give your lives, hearts and souls to each other, Consummate, make the marriage complete by making love with the other.

If they pressure you before this and are not interested in total commitment then your body is a delight to them and your soul and life really unimportant.

If you are not being pressured and someone offers you alcohol or drugs and you say, “No!” and no one gets upset then you are under no pressure the people don’t mind you saying no and you can come and go as you like.

Not being pressured is people just letting you be you. It also means not treading on eggshells being afraid to be yourself.

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