It is wise to see people for Who they are and not What they are.

We were discussing our local Mayor on Facebook and I explained that she is a professional politician and that she will tell you what you want to hear and then do nothing about it, that is how they keep people off their backs and then at election time they kiss everyone’s babies to get elected again.

If you were like me and you had abusive narcissist parents then it is wise to see them for who they are (narcissists) and not what they are (your parents). Then you can get a realistic truthful look at them and your relationship with them and how they will continue to treat you should you allow it.

Same as your ex wife or husband who did you wrong. If they slept around on you, lied. were dishonest, then see them for being of bad character, not someone who you still may have good feelings for (your spouse), because they will use your good feelings to get you back and then and you will just go through it all, all over again.

When you see a Lawyer who was a friend of yours years ago you see that person as a friend, when in reality if they had to back up someone in court that was against you then they would - see that person for what they are, a lawyer, and not who they are your old friend.

The manipulator will never be your friend, but your insecurities, loneliness, desperate thoughts can have you running back just to be abused all over again, so see the Manipulator as a manipulator, don’t see them as your friend, lover, spouse, they are their character not your weaknesses and not who you wish them to be because you have a fairytale running in your mind that wants your fairytale to come true.

When you do business with a person in business you should see that person (no matter how personal you have been with that person) as a business person first before they are your friend.

Meaning when it comes to the crunch for survival they will choose the business over your wants.

See the politician as a politician before you see the politician as your friend.

Know the person for who you have come to know them to be and not what you wish that they would be.

All the best from

James M Sandbrook.

4th of April, 2021.