Love

The healthy part about love is that “you like the person” who you are in love with.
While there is a pull towards that person is is a desire to get to know that person, because you know that you will be comfortable.

Based on obtaining love, happiness and a soulful partnership.

About giving all you have to the person who you love.

Seeing yourself in the other person.

About knowing that even though you are part you share the same dreams.

Desires compatibility.

Knows it is love. Trust and faith in each other.

Healthy body reactions when you see the one you love. Healthy innocent sexual desires.

You think about the other all day, and how you want a hug, to talk, to do things together and healthy sex.

Difficulty with other relationships with friends and family because you feel like someone is missing from your life, your day, and you want to share your day with that person.

Obsession

Obsession is that you want that person but you don't know why.

The pull is more a craving, irrational and mentally disturbing.

More based on obtaining that person.

About taking that person, ownership, control.

Stress and frustration causing negative reactions because they are not allowed the one they crave for.

About “I want”, simply “because”.

Desires control.

Possessive, jealous.

Unhealthy body reactions, desires and unhealthy sexual desires on the more fanatical side.

Thinking about getting, taking, owning, being with the other all day without real regard for what the other person wants.

Difficulty with other relationships with friends and family.

I know a woman who was obsessed with a man in a most unhealthy way, she fretted, got the shakes when she saw him, got upset in many ways and suffered with addictions.

As time when by she got better and saw him in a better light as she became used to his real character and saw someone she liked.

In time they married and it all worked out.
It was her obsession that kept them apart, once that was gone she noticed that she likes what she saw an had fallen in love with him. Only then was the relationship healthy.

Some people may be too immature, not mentally stable, and they see someone, fall in love but are unaware why because at that stage in their life they crave sex and immature activities with that person, but that person they want does not do that sort of thing, so the love becomes obsessive.

Possibly subconsciously the person who falls in love knows that they cannot give the person who they love the loving they deserve that is healthy and natural, so they lose control of their facilities/functions in the normal way.

If over time that person changes, becomes mature and stable then the relationship can start again.

All the best from

James M Sandbrook.

16th of April, 2021.

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A hug will do, sex would be nice, but staying in your arms would be pure heaven on earth.