Your Needs.

We live in a Commercial World where most things are based on money.
Some unscrupulous people have realized that if they can make people feel less of themselves, partake in unhealthy activities, seek things that don’t meet their needs, that they can make huge amounts of money from the masses.

When I was reading about Great Danes they mentioned that we should not give the dog cake or other such foods. The reason they said is that the fast foods and unhealthy foods would fill the dogs tummy and make the dog feel full, but they were not meeting the dogs health requirements.

If you can be insecure then they can convince you that you need something (materialistic) to buy to make you feel better about yourself and people will like you the more for you having spent money to gain it.

An example si they convince you to eat and eat fast foods, and you love it, but your health needs are not being met and the regular fast foods in place of healthy food affects your health, and that affects your life, confidence, and disappointed in your new increase in weight you eat more because food has now become a comfort for you.

Put a flower n a dry bit of land and it may survive but oh how it will suffer from the lack of water, constant sun, cold night winds and such.
Put the same flower in an environment that is health and the flowers needs are being met and the flower blooms in every way becoming a delight to all that see and smell this happy flower.

If you read the excellent book “Murphy’s Boy (1983) / Silent Boy (British title for Murphy's Boy)” you will find that the boy is in the mental health care. He is silent, sits under a table each day. No one can help him or get any reaction out of him. Torey Hayden is brought in and she read to him and over a period of time he responfds, and eventually positively, and then the darkness within him comes out and he finds out what his mind was protecting him from.

Sometimes one or two needs are not being met and then when they are we grow, change, form into the person who we thought that we never could be.

Instead of getting our children into makeup, cars, parties, socializing, a good healthy change would be a focus on our children learning how to meet their needs as young adults and then they would be better prepared for a healthier future.

Meeting out needs physically, spiritually, mentally, with healthy sex, with genuine love, and such we are like the flower who in in the right environment, a healthy place for that flower to grow and bloom.

If you are struggling in mental health or physically and you are in so-called good hands but you stay the same, then that person may be educated and such, but that person is not meeting your needs or there would be an obvious change in who you are, your mental health, your physical activities, your complete life.

Before you let “experts” label you and tell you what they deem is wrong with you, please see about meeting your needs first.

For a lot of us meeting our own needs means seeking out a more healthier, clean, lifestyle, one that suits our soul and helps us. What our family showed us may not be as healthy as they thought, or they had habits that were not meeting the family members needs. As and seek out the live style that suits you.

Meeting Your Needs Is the Key to Happiness

The key to happiness is meeting our needs.

Although codependents are very good at meeting needs of other people, many are clueless about their own needs. They have problems identifying, expressing, and fulfilling their needs and wants.

They may be very attuned to the needs and desires of other people, fulfilling and even anticipating them.

Over the years, they become so used to accommodating others that they lose the connection to their own needs and wants.

This pattern starts in childhood, when our needs were ignored or shamed.

As children we had to adapt to the needs of our parents, who may have been physically or mentally ill, addicted, or just emotionally or physically unavailable. Some of us had to adapt to the wants and expectations of a selfish or controlling parent just to survive. After a while, rather than be disappointed or shamed for not getting our needs met, we tune them out.

As adults, we can’t stop ourselves from sacrificing our needs and wants in relationships, at the expense of our own happiness. At first we may be motivated by love, but before long we’re resentful as our discontent and the imbalance in the relationship grow. Without recovery, we may believe the problem only lies with our selfish partner. If we haven’t reclaimed ourselves and leave the relationship, we’re sad to discover that we don’t know what we want or what to do with ourselves — except to get into another relationship — fast! Otherwise, the underlying emptiness and depression that we were unaware of will arise.

- Psych Central.

All the best from

James M Sandbrook.

15th of April, 2021.

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